People life during the holiday season often brings us closer, reminding us of our love—and sometimes, like with family, of old frustrations too.

Fundamentally, Thanksgiving in particular encourages us to show people how much we value the gifts they have given us. Some gifts—the kind that are accompanied by admiration, love, and sincere respect—are more evident right away than others.

Others challenge us, test us, push us, and leave us questioning whether we have anything for which to be thankful.

Undoubtedly, some relationships are more difficult than others, but each one gives us the chance to develop and support others in doing the same. We learn something about setting boundaries, loving, trusting, forgiving, and caring for one another and ourselves from every relationship.

Here are some ideas for expressing your gratitude to those that support you at work, push you, and love you.

Show Gratitude to People Who Love You

1 Give a concrete example of anything they did for you and explain how it changed your life.

2. Show them some consideration by doing something small, like cleaning up after Thanksgiving meal!

3. To accommodate their preferences and make them smile, give them a lengthy, passionate hug or, if you know they dislike hugs, extend your hand for a handshake.

4. Let them know they have your undivided attention and that you are available if they would like to discuss anything.

5. Give them something that you believe they will like, and explain why you prefer that they have it.

6. Ask them to participate in an activity you know they have always desired.

7. Encourage them to do something they have been afraid to try but know they want to.

8. Offer to do something you know they dislike, such as mowing their yard or rearranging their closet.

9. Give them praise for a strength, ability, or talent you find admirable.

10. Say, “You make the world a better place,” while looking them in the eyes.

Show Gratitude to People Who Challenge You

11. Pay close attention to what they have to say rather than mentally formulating your response and then speaking.

12. Even if you still disagree, thank them for presenting you with a different perspective.

13. Even if you do not share their ideas, identify one aspect of their dedication to them that you respect.

14. Fight the want to correct them.

15. With love and good intentions, challenge them again to be the finest version of themselves.

16. If they encouraged you to step outside of your comfort zone, tell them how it worked out and thank them for motivating you to do so.

17. Compose a blog entry and dedicate it to them, explaining how they changed your perspective.

18. Make use of the courage, patience, or compassion that this individual has taught you via your interactions.

19. As they have done for you, introduce them to someone who can push them and help them develop.

20. Express your gratitude when they challenge you in a loving, non-aggressive manner; if they don’t, be cool and collected when you request that they do so in the future.

Show Gratitude to People Who Serve You

21. Tip more than you usually would.

22. If they have a tip jar, put your coins or bills in it with a kind message of gratitude.

23. When you give them instructions or ask for help, smile. Give a smile away; they are infectious!

24. If they serve you frequently, give them credit for anything they consistently do well, such as working quickly or remaining composed under duress.

25. Be patient, even if you are rushing.

26. Inform their manager that they do exceptionally well.

27. Maintain a clean work environment; for instance, tidy up after oneself at the sugar counter at a coffee shop.

28. If someone works in or outside of your home, offer to get them coffee.

29. If you have their contact details, send them a thank-you email. Do not ask them to reply; simply let them know you wished to let them know.

30. Give them a positive Yelp review and/or tell your friends about them.

Show Gratitude to People Who Work with You

31. Express your gratitude with a handwritten message, highlighting their contributions and qualities you admire.

32. If you can, offer to reduce their task in some way.

33. If you know they are working hard and probably have not had time to get lunch, bring it back for them.

34. To demonstrate that you value and respect their time, keep meetings brief if you are conducting them.

35. Instead of being all business, ask them about their lives. This just means demonstrating an interest in their personal lives, not intruding on their affairs.

36. In a tense situation, be the cool, collected voice.

37. To make their desk more cheerful, give them flowers.

38. Inform their supervisor of their excellent work and contributions to the business.

39. Pay close attention if they are having a rough day and acknowledge whether they need time to work things out without assistance or guidance.

40. Keep in mind that even the smallest things can have a significant impact!

Show Gratitude for Yourself

41. List the ways you have recently impressed yourself.

42. Indulge in something you like, such as a massage or pedicure.

43. Express gratitude to the person who complimented you and let them know that you are proud of their success, talent, or skill.

44. Give yourself a compliment: write it in a notebook, write it on a sticky note and place it on your fridge, or say it while you are facing the mirror.

45. Make time for a hobby you are occasionally too busy to pursue.

46. List all the positive things you have done for the world and other people.

47. Compose a love letter to yourself. Sincerely, begin with “Dear Lori” (but use your own name instead) and list all the qualities you value about yourself.

48. Give up whatever expectations you may have about treating yourself with kindness, which means you should be grateful even if you did not achieve or do anything in particular.

49. Plan a self-centered afternoon or evening to spend with yourself.

50. Tell everyone around you how beautiful you are, knowing that they are lucky to have you in their lives.

You are a blessing in my life. The world is a better place because of you!

**Update: People appear to be liking the thankfulness journal/coloring book I launched after writing this piece! You may find out more information here if you are interested.